Therapy For Relationship Wellness | Dr. Don and Carrie Cole | #25
Published on Feb 20, 2023, 6:00:00 AM
Total time: 00:43:56
Published on Feb 20, 2023, 6:00:00 AM
Total time: 00:43:56
Join the conversation today as Dave and Liz invite doctors Don and Carrie Cole,
founders of the Center for Relationship Wellness, onto the stronger marriage connection
podcast to bring you some amazing tools and strategies for creating more connection in your relationship. Don and Carrie’s work is backed by years of scientific research with John and Julie Gottman, so you won’t want to miss out on today’s episode!
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by Dr. John & Julie Gottman
About Dr. Don & Carrie Cole:
Dr. Carrie Cole is the Director of Research for The Gottman Institute and manages the
Gottman Love Lab. She holds a Ph.D. in psychological research and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She is a licensed professional counselor and an approved LPC supervisor in the State of Texas, a licensed mental health counselor in the State of Washington, and a Certified Gottman Therapist. Carrie is a Master Trainer for The Gottman Institute and trains therapists in Gottman Method Couples Therapy around the world. She is a consultant for the certification program and has led The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples multiple times a year since 2008. Carrie has also published peer-reviewed journal articles independently and with doctors John and Julie Gottman. Her work with couples includes couples therapy, workshops, seminars, and intensive marathon sessions. Carrie and her husband, Dr. Don Cole reside in Seattle, WA.
Insights:
Don: Things can't just fix themselves. You have to repair things. When things aren't feeling right, you have to fix it.
Carrie: Couples who are connected to each other have a lot of rituals that they really enjoy doing together.
Liz: The beauty of these tools is that they bring us such hope. Across the board. No matter where we are in our marriage.
Dave: Lack of attention leads to loss of connection.
Invites:
● Create meaningful rituals of connection. Set a time each day that works for you and your partner where you can talk about how you’re doing as a couple.
● Next time you need to bring up an issue to your partner, use a softened startup. Talk about how you feel, what happened (without using “you”), and state what you need inpositive terms. Write it out if you have to. How a conversation starts is likely how it’s
going to end.
● Have a stress reducing conversation with your partner. If your spouse expresses an emotional experience, try not to problem solve or side with the enemy. Ask good
questions. Show compassion, empathy, and validation.
Dr. Don & Carrie Cole Links:
- Centerforrelationshipwellness.com
- carrie@gottman.com
- don@gottman.com
- gottman.com
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It's often said that marriage takes work. The Stronger Marriage Connection podcast wants to help because a happy marriage is worth the effort. USU Family Life Professor Dr. Dave Schramm and Clinical Psychologist Dr. Liz Hale talk with experts about the principles and practices that will enhance your commitment, compassion, and emotional connection.
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