Do we outgrow idealism or abandon it?

Episode 234: The hosts start with a question that most of us eventually confront: What happened to the person we used to be? The one who believed big problems had solutions, that institutions could be improved, that effort and empathy would move the needle.

Drawing on a Washington Post column about former AmeriCorps volunteers who now describe themselves as more world-weary than hopeful, the conversation explores how early civic energy changes over time. Is that shift a healthy move toward realism? Or does it signal something more troubling?

Kyte argues that the real danger isn’t maturity or pragmatism. It’s cynicism. He draws a sharp distinction between hope and optimism, suggesting that while optimism expects specific outcomes on a preferred timeline, hope is steadier and more durable. When expectations collide with institutional inertia, corruption or slow progress, disappointment can harden into distrust. And once distrust becomes a default posture, it seeps into everything: careers, communities, politics, even personal ambition.

Rada pushes the discussion into familiar territory for many listeners, asking whether we “settle” as we age. If childhood dreams fall away, does that mean we’ve compromised? Or have we simply recalibrated? Kyte responds that healthy ambition focuses on effort and craft rather than external validation. The goal isn’t recognition or medals — it’s meaningful engagement.

Scott Rada is a digital strategist with Lee Enterprises, and Richard Kyte is the director of the D.B. Reinhart Institute for Ethics in Leadership at Viterbo University in La Crosse, Wisconsin. Kyte is also the author of "Finding Your Third Place: Building Happier Communities (and Making Great Friends Along the Way)."

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