Dating at Her Age

Let's explore the science of dating! Debbie and Caitlyn speak with Relationship Coach Kristin Sokol to learn more about specific strategies to creating a smoother dating life for both men and women. The hosts discuss how to craft the perfect dating app profile, ways to ease in and build better relationships from the first date and so much more! 

Can your phone alert you if you're being tracked by an AirTag that someone else has placed inside your car?

As a continuation of our previous episode Stalked, we explore tracking devices in this bonus episode.

About this episode:

This question recently came up on the talk show Dave and Dujanovic, the show Caitlyn produces and Deb co-hosts weekdays on KSL Newsradio.

The question came up on the show because there is a murder investigation taking place in Utah. Police say they have evidence that a man, who was shot to death, was being tracked by an AirTag that was placed inside his vehicle. The police department accused his wife and some of her family members of tracking his location as he drove to the home where he was killed. 

Debbie and Caitlyn share a discussion with Earl Foote, tech expert and CEO of Nexus IT who shares what he knows about AirTags and if you can find out if you are being tracked by one. Also, hear from KSL Newsradio listeners who called in live into the Dave and Dujanovic show with their experiences of being notified of AirTags nearby. 

National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 

Text "START" to 88788

https://www.thehotline.org/

Utah Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-897-LINK
1-800-897-5465

Dating at Her Age

In today's dating age, we are connecting with perfect strangers.  For both men and women, there is a big concern in the dating world about being stalked and harassed in some way. Debbie and Caitlyn turn to Wendy Isom, Director of Victim Services and Sergeant Liz Johnson, with the SLC Police Department to discuss what stalking is, ways to protect yourself in the dating world, online and in person, and what to do if you are being harassed or suspect that you may have a stalker. 

National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 

Text "START" to 88788

Sometimes dishonesty is obvious and othertimes it is subtle. 

Caitlyn and Debbie take the truth test for dating, where they define dishonesty in a partner and how they can be more honest with themselves in what they are seeking in a partner. 

Debbie shares experiences where she's felt decieved from one man's marital status to another man's pursuit of a college degree. Caitlyn has a realization about how she's felt mislead in situationships by others and herself. 

In this week's Dater Hater segment, Debbie and Caitlyn review a message from a listen about dating sabbaticals.

Dating can be complicated. Adding kids into the mix can make it even more of a challenge because it involves more than one person. Debbie and Caitlyn seek advice from Psychologist, Tom Golightly, on how to navigate dating someone who has young kids, how adult kids can be impacted by their parent dating, and what boundaries and expectations you can set when getting involved in a child's life through dating their parent. 

Are you always the single friend? Do you find yourself observing couples and asking yourself... when is it my turn? You are certainly not alone. Debbie and Caitlyn share their experiences with always being the single friend, how they manage being a third wheel, and ways they have adjusted their perspective about being the only single friend in a new light.

Also, what do you do when you get dumped by a friend as they begin a new relationship? Caitlyn, who now lives alone, shares an update on how she is adjusting to her new lifestyle, as her close friend and roommate of 8 years, recently moved out of state to be with her significant other. 

If you’re like Debbie & Caitlyn you hold on to hope that a failing relationship will turn a corner and work out. 

In this episode Debbie shares what she calls her break up recipe with Caitlyn; her list of not-so-obvious signs a relationship has hit a dead end. 

In a twist, Caitlyn adds a new ingredient to Deb’s list of signs — and it’s the ah-ha moment of the episode. 

In today's episode, Debbie and Caitlyn open up a deeper conversation as they go through the learning lessons about dating and relationships that they would tell their younger selves. What is something you would tell your younger self about dating if you had the opportunity? 

Sometimes dating is like going to the grocery store, if you go into it without a shopping list, you may end up spinning in circles. If you go into dating without knowing what you are looking for, it can also to more confusion in the long run and potentially even buyers remorse. In this episode of Dating at Her Age, Debbie and Caitlyn break down the priorities on their dating shopping lists. What's on your dating shopping list? In the Dater Hater segment, a man calls in with one of his own dating experiences, that went in a different direction than expected. 

Making the decision to move in with your significant other can be a big step, so when do you know it is the right time? How soon is too soon? What legal ramifications should you be aware of before moving in together? Debbie and Caitlyn discuss this topic with the help of KSL Legal Analyst, Greg Skordas. 

Can you date long distance and how do you make it work? Debbie and Caitlyn speak with multiple people who have had success with long distance dating! Jeff and Heather Caplan started their relationship at a distance from Utah to New York. The Caplan's share their experience, along with the challenges and sacrifices they made to make their relationship work, at a distance. They also speak to how they ultimately made the decision to come together to be in the same location. Caitlyn's long time friend and roommate, Makenzie Neath, joins the podcast and shares her perspective, as someone who is currently in a long distance relationship and is now making plans to move out of state. Can dating long distance actually work? Listen to find out more!

Dating in today's world, consumed by dating apps, can lead to burnout. It is exhausting trying to find your perfect match! Debbie and Caitlyn discuss their dating app burnout and how many couples they actually know that have had successful relationships from dating apps. (Spoiler: it is a small number) In today's dater hater call, Debbie and Caitlyn hear from a listener who shares her frustrations in dating, how she broke it off respectfully with someone she was dating, and why others should do the same. 

In this bonus episode, Debbie continues her tips for DIY background checks for dating and goes more in depth on how to verify someone's name. Caitlyn and Debbie also discuss ways to verify if someone is telling the truth about being a property owner. 

To stay safe while dating, Debbie started turning to online databases she used while she was an investigative journalist. In today’s dating world, women and men are connecting with perfect strangers. After meeting single men with unflattering histories, including criminal rap sheets, Debbie decided to make it standard practice to search sites she had used as a news reporter for dating life. In this episode she shares with Caitlyn the websites she uses for her DIY background checks and explains how and why she uses them.

Should you date or continue a relationship with someone who has an addiction? As we continue our dating journey, we turn to an expert to help us navigate what to do if we find ourselves in a relationship with someone who has an addiction. Can you fix them? How do you navigate the situation and set proper boundaries? What is going on inside the mind of an addict while in a relationship? Travis Whittaker, Owner and CEO of Diamond Recovery Center joins the podcast to share his first hand insight as someone who has struggled with addiction. 

Resources for addiction and crisis help: 

Can't get someone off of your mind no matter what you do? Stuck in an attachment you desperately want to move on from? We've all been there! In this episode, Debbie shares some effective tips she's learned on how to remove someone from your brain! Tune in to learn the questions you need to ask yourself to evict the person who has been living in your mind... rent free.

Have a comment or dating story to share? Give us a call at 801-575-5599!  

Confused about your relationship status? Been stuck in an endless cycle with someone who won't commit? You may be in a situationship! Join in on the lesson of situationships 101 as we break down how to identify if you are in a situationship and how you can get out of it before you get too attached! We'll share some of our messy situationship moments we've each been caught in in hopes to help more people identify the red flags before you find yourself down bad crying at the gym ;) 

Can you afford someone else's bad money problems in a relationship and can you fix them? Debbie and Caitlyn see this from different perspectives at their different ages. On one hand, Caitlyn has a bit more runway to correct financial issues in her late 20's as many at this age are still getting on their feet. On the other hand, Debbie is concerned that bad money habits may never be corrected and lead to bigger issues while dating in her 50's. Shane Stewart, Certified Financial Planner with DMBA joins the conversation to offer his advice on how to identify financial red flags and the downside of dating someone who's broke. Can you change men financially? Tune in to find out more. 

Being single during holidays does not have to be miserable! In this bonus episode of Dating at Her Age Caitlyn walks Debbie through some tips on how to romanticize your life when single especially on holidays when your single status seems to be on full blast. 

Who pays for the first date? That is the topic for this week's Dating at Her Age episode! Is going dutch and splitting the bill an option or should the tab fall on the person who asked the other out? Tune in to listen to Debbie and Caitlyn's different takes based off their experiences at different ages. Debbie shares how she got stuck with a $1,000 tab on one of her dates and Caitlyn explores her reasoning as to why free first dates are a great option for people in their 20's who may be struggling financially. In this week's Dater Hater segment, Debbie walks through some of the haters in her Tik Tok comments who disagree with her take on not giving convicted felons a second chance when it comes to dating.